Benjamin Monlezun
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"Tell me about a time you adapted to change." "What's working really well in your life?"
"What are you most self-confident about?"
"Which of your five senses is strongest?"
"Have you ever been solitary without feeling lonely?" or
"What has become clearer to you as you have aged?"
asked me about three topics: my ultimate goals (What do you want to offer the world?), my skills (What are you doing when you feel most alive?), and my schedule (How exactly do you fill your days?). These were questions that lifted me out of the daily intricacies of my schedule and forced me to look at the big picture.
From How to know a person
Advice to remember and review to better set boundaries.
Be a better feedback receiver.
Look for extreme talent. Ask to “take me back” and get people in a narrative.
Listen for specific things they love or are good at. Like “I love writing out lesson plans”. Learned what they’re wired to do.
For Murdoch, the essential immoral act is the inability to see other people correctly. Human beings, she finds, are self-centered beings, anxiety-ridden and resentful. We are constantly representing people to ourselves in self-serving ways, in ways that gratify our egos and serve our ends. We stereotype and condescend, ignore and dehumanize. And be
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When looking at my family or friends that judge first (which I can even do) - this is the argument or the recognition of why they (and I) should change.
I think too, that social media harms our ability to cultivate the qualities of an Illuminator - to care and see others. That we are not one thing at one time. That we all have grains of the same qualities with a soul that changes from moment to moment.