Ben Coffee

"Whether a decision is good or bad can change based on how you act after the choice is made.

You can't learn all the lessons beforehand. You learn a lot about what you want in a marriage after getting married. You discover what type of career you enjoy after doing a lot of work. And so it goes in nearly every area of life. In many cases, what you... See more

"Make a mistake? Release the guilt, remember the lesson."

You have to accept there is no right answer, there is no one who has all the answers.

It’a a tough choice...but then again, that’s what being a parent is, making tough choices.

"Caring about everything is a disaster.

Caring about nothing is also a disaster.

Nurture the small pocket of things that truly matter to you."

You get to pick a new career based on one factor: Your job is to do the activity that most frequently puts you into a flow state.

Flow state = you feel fully immersed in your work, you're in "the zone," time flies by without you realizing it, etc.

What do you choose?

"Things that keep people from fulfilling their potential:

• Lacking the courage to try


• Trying to please everyone


• Imitating the desires of others


• Chasing status without questioning why


• Playing superhero and trying to do it all alone


• Dividing attention between too many projects"

"Decide the type of person you want to be.

Prove it to yourself with small wins."

"It is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it. There is more to it than that — no one HAS to do something he doesn't want to do for the rest of his life. But then again, if that's what you wind up doing, by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it. You'll have lots of company."

"Clarity isn't about knowing what you want to do with your life, it's about knowing what you want to do this week.

You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to know your next step."