ZUHARA🤍

IT’S TIME TO COMMIT TO INTENTIONAL LOVING IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE FOR YOURSELF, FOR THE WORLD, FOR GOD AND FURTHERMORE FOR EVERYONE ELSE.

This is what it looks like! This is what I look like! (in my Tiffany Haddish voice)

How life looks when you finally decide to put the rose colored glasses down, claim the inner confidence for yourself and finally commit to doing the work necessary to not only love yourself better through compassion, self care and most of all forgiveness but so you can show up “better”(which is relative since each vision of what that is for each person is different) in the world + your relationships with others🤍

Each of our feelings are valid but ultimately in order to understand ourselves better and also be better in our relationships with others we must also be willing to look at every chance or opportunity for connection as a moment of growth——yes people fuck yup and so do you. Nobody is perfect. We’re all learning as we go and I’m talking about the people who actually are intentional + not just crappy individuals on purpose even the crappy ones remember that they’re also just as a human beings with their own struggles, insecurities, fears and overall “influences” outside of you just like you have and navigate through all of that in your own unique way.

Why must we continue to instead of subscribing others behaviors, actions or lack therefor be subscribed in relation to our self worth and worthiness of love?

Why do we continue to desire to stay upset and allow ourselves to create further suffering when we can just try to take a Birds Eye of them as an Individual?

What are all the things you would want someone to take into consideration when viewing you as an individual aside from your struggles, insecurities, fears or all the great things they’re able to recognize about you?

Your story, it would be what your life story has been so far right? How your timeline looks and everything you deem of importance you’ve tackled or are currently working on right? Or is it your visions for your future or how you may show up in the world? Or what your favorite hobbies and past times are?

That sense of validation of what makes us unique human beings and how we take such a bird’s eye view for ourselves is exactly the same method I am starting to believe we must take when analyzing another or reviewing anyone as an individual.

What is their story? What is that you may know about them personally that seems significant outside of their relationship with you. The good, the bad, the great. And ultimately eventually you’ll start to realize while taking time to ponder details or information you may have been aware of but considered supplementary give you a better understanding resulting in emotions and feelings that allow you to be rooted in reality rather then the simple projection being “they weren’t enough”, “they were horrible” or worst “you were horrible and you’re not enough” and just might never be.

And mind you when I write this (I genuinely don’t mean this approach needs to be taken for analyzing or taking each person into consideration. I am very aware there are others who take pride in being harmful and toxic towards other——-but you can also eliminate yourself or the judgement towards them or the power it holds when they trigger a wound of yours or remind you of the pain, hurt and etc you have experienced.

Take a bird’s eye view of them too. Even the evil ones. Trust me, that will reveal to you a lot as well.

We don’t need to try to understand everything but understanding why we choose the relationships or people or the things we spend our time on every day when life is temporary and so short will also allow you to realize further more about yourself.

Committing to be intentional about knowing yourself and continuing to discovering yourself will set you free to being able to love others where they are and simply allow them to evolve right beside you while also honoring your needs, boundaries and uniqueness as an individual but before you can do that can you honestly expect another to recognize these things about you if you haven’t gotten the chance yet let alone be aware of what those needs, boundaries and ways of acknowledgment you desire if you haven’t identified it for yourself yet? How can you even be expected to express it or share when you haven’t gotten to do that with you yet?

You are worthy.

Refuse to subscribe to not enough.

Refuse to subscribe others to not enough.

Choose to be intentional about being enough by showing up as what is “you” (you get to decide that, that’s your superpower!)

The ones who get it will get it and the ones who don’t wish them well because it wasn’t that they couldn’t get it, they chose not to. They weren’t intentional and we all deserve to be intentional with one another as well as with ourselves.

And this not to invalidate anyone’s feelings or experiences but to just encourage a thought or process I have recently been trying to work through for my own self and healing. It’s allowed me to look and even feel differently surprisingly about people who are now apart of my past, the people in my life presently and furthermore the ones I will come to meet in the future.

Your feelings are valid.

YOU are valid. I need to know even with whatever actions they took against you or may be considering that you took against them + the feelings you still feel or thoughts you may ponder on about them at night as well as the wounds that still linger you need healing for is completely valid too.

THAT IS THE BIRD’s EYES VIEW.

WELCOME AND BE ANEW.

That’s what it looks like! That’s what you look like!

I love you.

Peace and blessings.

May we embark on each other soon.

Sincerely,

Z 🤍

P.S,

Try to remember or remind yourself when you need to that yes! multiple things can be present and also very true at the same time. Seek clarity by being curious or taking the step further to teach yourself what you may be “missing” information wise, again there’s no right method, no one is right or wrong but i encourage you to go out there and explore what just might be the methods to the madness completely right for you :)

May we all continue to grow into thinkers who think in nuances and commit to intentionally being a nuance just for the sake of it. Intentionally nor to ourselves or others.

I love you.

Till next time XOXO

Reminder to everyone