Lauren Wilde

“But even if your mate seems oblivious, he may be detecting your wrath on a subconscious level. A University of Southern California study that observed married couples over several days found that if a mother was stressed, the father’s levels of the stress hormone cortisol would also rise—that, in effect, families “sync up” stress levels.... See more

“Perhaps the least visible but most pervasive job is that of household manager. “That one is constant,” Smock says. “It’s the person who remembers everything: that Joey needs to have a dentist appointment, what foods each child likes, that a babysitter needs to be hired for the weekend. If a mother is handing her husband a grocery list, he is given... See more

“Researchers from the UK’s Mindlab International measured subconscious brain activity in sleeping men and women and found that while a baby’s crying was the number one nighttime sound most likely to wake up a woman, it didn’t even figure into the male top ten—lagging behind car alarms. And strong wind.”

— How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by... See more

Birth trauma is a subjective experience. It is an autonomic response of the nervous system, similar to an alarm being tripped in the brain, often set off by a perceived threat to safety. It is not a choice. Birth traumas vary greatly in their cause and presentation. My story is only one example.

Your birth experience did not need to have been... See more

FWIW, in this newsletter, you’ll notice that we tend to use the term “pregnancy loss” more often than “miscarriage.” Some advocates in the space have noted that the word “miscarriage” can insinuate a mistake, badness, or error—ideas that can be internalized by a mother. It’s not wrong to use the word miscarriage—and we will use it occasionally—but... See more