Lauren Wilde

I’m not a celebrity, I’m a worker. I’ve always worked. I was working before people read anything about me, and the day they stopped reading about me, I was doing even more work. And the idea that if you’re a mother, you’re not doing anything—it’s the hardest job there is, being a mother or father requires great sacrifice, discipline, selflessness,... See more

“But even if your mate seems oblivious, he may be detecting your wrath on a subconscious level. A University of Southern California study that observed married couples over several days found that if a mother was stressed, the father’s levels of the stress hormone cortisol would also rise—that, in effect, families “sync up” stress levels.... See more

FWIW, in this newsletter, you’ll notice that we tend to use the term “pregnancy loss” more often than “miscarriage.” Some advocates in the space have noted that the word “miscarriage” can insinuate a mistake, badness, or error—ideas that can be internalized by a mother. It’s not wrong to use the word miscarriage—and we will use it occasionally—but... See more

But the issue of children and who looks after them has become, in my view, profoundly political, and so it would be a contradiction to write a book about motherhood without explaining to some degree how I found the time to write it. For the first six months of Albertine’s life I looked after her at home while my partner continued to work. This

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Pregnancy loss almost always results from something out of your control (read: not your fault). About 80 percent of pregnancy losses occur within the first trimester, and about one-half to two-thirds of those occur because of chromosomal abnormalities.