Lauren Wilde

FWIW, in this newsletter, you’ll notice that we tend to use the term “pregnancy loss” more often than “miscarriage.” Some advocates in the space have noted that the word “miscarriage” can insinuate a mistake, badness, or error—ideas that can be internalized by a mother. It’s not wrong to use the word miscarriage—and we will use it occasionally—but... See more

“Darby Saxbe, a psychology professor at the University of Southern California, explains to me that couples often fall into a pattern of demand and retreat—most often, the woman demands and the man retreats. This dynamic has arisen, she says, because men have less to gain by changing their behavior, while women are more likely to want to alter the... See more

“Researchers from the UK’s Mindlab International measured subconscious brain activity in sleeping men and women and found that while a baby’s crying was the number one nighttime sound most likely to wake up a woman, it didn’t even figure into the male top ten—lagging behind car alarms. And strong wind.”

— How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by... See more

“Even when they are asleep, infants as young as six months react negatively to angry, argumentative voices, as University of Oregon researchers discovered by measuring brain activity of babies in the presence of steadily rising voices. Babies raised by unhappily married parents have been shown to have a host of developmental problems, from delayed... See more