Lauren Wilde

“But even if your mate seems oblivious, he may be detecting your wrath on a subconscious level. A University of Southern California study that observed married couples over several days found that if a mother was stressed, the father’s levels of the stress hormone cortisol would also rise—that, in effect, families “sync up” stress levels.... See more

This practice of accepting my feelings without judgment and leaning into self-compassion was the first and most important step in my healing journey. As we always say in the therapy room, you can’t heal what you don’t feel.

I also realized I had to forgive my past self. I had to forgive the version of myself who sat on that couch staring into space,... See more

FWIW, in this newsletter, you’ll notice that we tend to use the term “pregnancy loss” more often than “miscarriage.” Some advocates in the space have noted that the word “miscarriage” can insinuate a mistake, badness, or error—ideas that can be internalized by a mother. It’s not wrong to use the word miscarriage—and we will use it occasionally—but... See more

Birth trauma is a subjective experience. It is an autonomic response of the nervous system, similar to an alarm being tripped in the brain, often set off by a perceived threat to safety. It is not a choice. Birth traumas vary greatly in their cause and presentation. My story is only one example.

Your birth experience did not need to have been... See more