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Love notes to myself and to you. Take what you need 💌 #selfloveclub

Mother’s Day is tomorrow, and many of us are going to receive gifts of outings, nights out, or traditional “self-care” methods. And these can be great, welcome gifts. But they can also add to an already full plate and fail to leave us rested. We’re often told we just need to rest or practice “self-care” when we express feeling overwhelmed in motherhood. But self-care can sometimes feel like one more thing to do. The invisible load of prioritizing self-care involves: 〰 Learning to say no 〰 Finding the time 〰 Seeking support from family and friends 〰 Trusting others while you’re away 〰 Learning to set and hold boundaries 〰 Having the resources 〰 Letting go of the belief that a good mom is selfless 〰 Being willing to accept help or support 〰 Learning how to manage the guilt 〰 Challenging the belief that your needs aren’t important 〰 Rediscovering things you enjoy 〰 Following through even though there are a million reasons not to It’s easy to feel like it isn’t even worth it. But I want you to know that YOU are worth it. We can take the time to think about our own needs, work on setting boundaries, and give ourselves permission to prioritize our own time. When we value our own time and tune into our own needs, we can shed guilt, let go of expectations, and start practicing real self-care. Working with a mom therapist can help us change the way we view our own time, let go of “good mom” expectations, and find our own path in motherhood. We offer virtual therapy support for moms across Canada and the United States, serving you at every step of your journey. Our mom therapists understand what you’re going through. They can help with: 〰 Recognizing your own needs 〰 Advocating for your needs 〰 Prioritizing your time 〰 Rediscovering yourself in motherhood 〰 And more! Find out if we serve your area and book a FREE 15 minute virtual consultation. Comment MWTHERAPY below to receive a DM with more information or head to momwell.com/booking . . . . . #happymothersday #mothersdaygifts #momsmatter #candidmotherhood #realmoms #mentalloadofmotherhood #invisibleload #invisibleloadofmotherhood

We go through a lot of changes after having a baby, but one of the biggest ones can be a shift in our relationship. Many couples experience big changes in their relationship after adding a child to their family. The emotional labor of dealing with relationship adjustment after a baby is a lot of work. This invisible load includes: 〰 Finding a new normal 〰 Expressing needs and feelings 〰 Prioritizing time for each other 〰 Communicating effectively 〰 Letting go of comparison 〰 Grieving how things were 〰 Resolving conflicts in a healthy way 〰 Researching whether your experience is common 〰 Seeing the good in each other 〰 Developing healthy boundaries 〰 Cultivating patience and forgiveness 〰 Learning to effectively apologize It can be tough! You’re dealing with sleep deprivation, new identities and values, major hormonal changes, and working through the mental and emotional labor involved in your relationship. It’s no wonder so many couples experience frustration! If you feel like you’re disconnected, struggling to communicate, or lacking the skills to work through this adjustment, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. A therapist can help you (or both of you together) work through the changes, build communication skills, unpack resentment, and reconnect. Momwell offers more than just mom support. We also offer support for partners. Whether you’re coping with postpartum mental health concerns, struggling with the adjustment to parenthood, or simply not feeling like yourself anymore, we’re here for you. Our virtual therapists provide services across Canada and the United States. We recently launched in several new states, now serving 65% of the US (CA, NY, TX, FL, OH, PA, GA, WA, AZ, WI, VA, IL, TE, MI). Find out if we serve your area and book a FREE 15 minute virtual consultation. Comment MWTHERAPY below to receive a DM with more information or head to momwell.com/booking . . . . . #healthyrelationships #marriageafterbaby #newparents #momstruggles #momtherapist

Be gentle with yourself. Feeling insecure from time to time is just part of being human 🫶 #millennialtherapist

Game on, @buttkicker7 — not what I had planned to announce the pre-orders for THE POWER PAUSE but here we are. I will not let you own the dialogue about modern stay at home motherhood. We’ve worked too hard and we’ve come too far. As someone who has spent eight years singularly focused on updating the perception of stay-at-home motherhood so modern women can face less shame and get more support, here’s what I have to say about Harrison Butker’s remarks. I will not let him set us back to an old-fashioned archetype wherein women who lean into family life for a chapter are defending tradition or giving up on their dreams. The reality of modern women on career pauses for caregiving is that they have accrued work experience before having children, they have equitable relationships with their partners, they have access to digital tools, the gig economy, and community to keep them learning and creating, and the day to day of caregiving adds to their perspective and leadership skills. And 90% aim to return to the workforce in a meaningful way that works for them. And they deserve to do so with confidence. So, I will not let this man upend the work of a movement of ambitious women with the lived experience of pausing their careers and growing alongside their families. We are still modern. We are still ambitious. We are still growing. We will not be counted out. And yes, pre-orders are now available at www.motheruntitled.com/thepowerpause or the link in bio or IG Stories. Every pre-order helps tell the world it’s time to reshape our perception of career pauses as one powerful part of a long game of work and life. It’s time. And we have to own the story — not him.

Too often women on career pause feel counted out of the conversation about the balancing act. Take this as your sign your work is immense and you deserve to be included in conversations about how to better support mothers. Source: Salary.com and further research and insight can be found here — https://finance.yahoo.com/news/much-economists-stay-home-moms-130001098.html Additional note: this is not to suggest women working out of the home aren’t ALSO doing immense work. This platform is specifically here to change the narrative around stay at home motherhood in America and as such this post is specific to our community of women on career breaks but we truly believe every mother works and every mother mothers even if the day to day and some of the challenges are different.

There’s a difference. For 7 years we’ve been championing an updated narrative about the modern “stay-at-home mom” to move past the caricatures from generations ago. Modern women on career pauses or downshifts to make room for the complicated, immense work of family life today have accrued more education and more work experience before motherhood, we have equitable relationships with partners with this generation of dads spending 3x the amount of time with children, we have access to digital landscape for flex work, education and ongoing growth and connection. And it’s imperative we update the perception so women choosing to pause or downshift aren’t counted out as giving up on ambition or expected to meet an ideology of doing it all on their own in the home. But lastly, we are finally at a moment where we are reexamining work and family and embracing a more nuanced fluid view that stands to unite women. Let’s not go backward and equate a decision to pause or shift for unique family needs with defending tradition. That’s what divided us generations ago and we have so much to gain by staying together.

This space is all about changing the language about career pauses for family life and this is a good one to take on. No, maternity leave or chapters of at-home parenting is not time off. Some people think it’s just colloquial conversation. I say it’s cultural messaging that undervalues the immense work of caregiving and family life in modern days and if we can change that messaging we empower parents to be valued, supported and respected during chapters of the non traditional work in the home. Happy Monday!

Two parts of the rebrand of the stay-at-home parent: 1. It’s immense valuable work 2. We’re still growing and learning. Why? So we get the support and respect needed during chapters of caregiving and the time away from the traditional workforce is respected and supported in our transition back to the paid workforce.