Sublime

It's common for complex trauma survivors to feel a little panicky when we feel we're not being listened to or not being perceived or understood accurately. Our nervous system was molded by experiences of being functionally invisible-- & that invisibility leading to pain & shame.

Your responsibility is to your safety, your stability, your needs, your values, & your goals. You don't have to apologize. It doesn't make you "bad" or "selfish" or "mean." The kindest, most supportive people on earth take care of themselves & honor their needs. Really.

People try to do all sorts of clever and difficult things to improve life instead of doing the simplest, easiest thing—refusing to participate in activities that make life bad. (Tolstoy)