Sublime

85 percent of heterosexual marriages, the stonewaller is the husband. This is not because of some lack on the man’s part. The reason lies in our evolutionary heritage. Anthropological evidence suggests that we evolved from hominids whose lives were circumscribed by very rigid gender roles, since these were advantageous to survival in a harsh enviro

If women were exploited more than men, wrote MacKinnon, it was their character that was seen to be the cause rather than their material condition. The fault lay inside us, not outside us. Even Karl Marx, who dreamed of abolishing class inequality through communism, couldn’t escape the suspicion that sexual inequality was an exception to other forms

Men are not biologically “built” for marriage. A corollary to the notion that affairs cause divorce, this theory holds that men are philanderers by nature and are therefore ill suited for monogamy. But whatever natural laws other species follow, among humans the frequency of extramarital affairs does not depend on gender so much as on opportunity.

males called more different individuals than women did up to the age of thirty-five, after which the ratio reversed.

Let me tell you a secret. There is a difference between men and women, a little, tiny one that, I’m afraid, has probably made most of your adult life miserable and will probably continue to make it so till you die. The difference is simply that women have only really been treated, by that bizarre, Durkheimian abstraction, ‘society,’ as human beings

Demands for recognition without a parallel demand for economic justice is at the heart of why the self is belabored.

started off believing all men and women are equal…I now know that is the most unlikely thing ever to have been because millions of years have passed over evolution, people have scattered across the face of this earth, been isolated from each other, developed independently, had different intermixtures between races, peoples, climates, soils…This is