Sublime

You Will Make Mistakes.

observe whether there are patterns to what tends to knock you off balance during difficult conversations, and then ask yourself why. What about your identity feels at risk? What does this mean to you?

Taking responsibility for your contribution up front prevents the other person from using it as a shield to avoid a discussion of their own contribution.

three identity issues seem particularly common, and often underlie what concerns us most during difficult conversations: Am I competent? Am I a good person? Am I worthy of love?

First, we need to examine our own story. What is the story we are telling ourselves that is giving rise to how we feel? What is our story missing?