Sublime

Avoid actions that are retraumatizing.

that they really are whatever the racist system says they are.

The second book he bought was Drift into Failure by Sidney Dekker, which he passed out to all his IT infrastructure and operations people. Dekker’s book forces organizational managers to rethink blame and accountability in complex processes. When something goes wrong, it asks, “Should you blame the person? Or is it the system?”2*

Your habitual ways of interacting with the important people in your life tell us a great deal about the defense mechanisms you typically use.

The possibility of redress through political channels has been effectively eliminated: the victimized child grows up, throws off the shackles of family and liberates himself completely except from his membership in a depoliticized recovery group.

Lack of mature self-esteem throws us back into compensatory infantile grandiosity with its characteristic tendency to rage, hate, envy, and violence. Our capacity to function appropriately disappears as our personality fragments.

As an analyst, I know that therapy can help solve problems, but it can also have the unintended consequence of perpetuating a person’s idea that there is something basically wrong with him