Sublime

He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient.

Find people who are able and willing to help them meet their needs

As I began exploring my own Nice Guy behaviors—caretaking, giving to get, fixing, keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, seeking approval, hiding mistakes—I started noticing numerous men with similar traits in my counseling practice.

He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met.

He is the man whose life seems so under control, until BOOM, one day he does something to destroy it

I’ll keep the story of my last fifteen years short. I went on my book tour, got divorced, had to learn to live alone for the first time in my adult life, struggled with some depression, frequently felt lost, learned to date in my late 40s, met a lot of great women, had a lot of sex (and couldn’t figure out on what planet I had landed after a fourte

The men I wrote about were not only not losers, they were highly motivated to become the best men they could be. Thus, they bought books.