Sublime

He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient.

I’ll keep the story of my last fifteen years short. I went on my book tour, got divorced, had to learn to live alone for the first time in my adult life, struggled with some depression, frequently felt lost, learned to date in my late 40s, met a lot of great women, had a lot of sex (and couldn’t figure out on what planet I had landed after a

The men I wrote about were not only not losers, they were highly motivated to become the best men they could be. Thus, they bought books.

These men have transformed themselves from resentful, frustrated, helpless Nice Guys into assertive, empowered, and happy individuals.

represents a challenge to everything Nice Guys believe about what they must do to be loved, get their needs met, and keep their world calm.

I had begun therapy to work on issues in my marriage. I couldn’t figure out why being such a Nice Guy didn’t make my wife happy or make her want to have more sex with me. No matter how hard I tried to please her, keep the peace, avoid conflict, and hide my needs, she was still frequently moody, angry, critical, and sexually unavailable.

These men have been conditioned to believe that if they are “nice,” they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a smooth life.

Bill is the person to whom everyone turns when they need something. The word “no” just isn’t in his vocabulary. He fixes cars for women at his church. He coaches his son’s little league baseball team. His buddies call on him when they need help moving. He looks after his widowed mother every evening after work.