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(Although even in her twenties, Charlie wasn’t what you’d call eye candy: her looks had always been sharp edged and intense, more like eye tequila.)
Katherine Heiny • Games and Rituals
A few of the nicer girls tried to befriend her over the years and she mostly clung to the fringes of their social groups, but she never really had a “best friend” and wasn’t invited to many sleepovers.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
she differs from the Banker in that she wants to prove her usefulness to the other girls in the group.
Rosalind Wiseman • Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World
On a daily basis, she learns what kind of girl she is “required” to be in order to be accepted by a group, or the consequence of standing her ground.
Rosalind Wiseman • Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World
The Banker is confusing to other girls because she seems harmless yet everyone is afraid of her.
Rosalind Wiseman • Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World
Her identity was based on pleasing others and the fear of not being liked if she didn’t. In her experience, she was not a real person who deserved respect and who, without any fabrication or effort, was lovable.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance
Since other women often resented her on sight, she did her best to make herself nonthreatening.
Coco Mellors • Blue Sisters: The instant top ten bestseller from the author of Cleopatra and Frankenstein
If she’s with the Queen Bee too long, she may forget she ever had her own opinion. Her sense of self and identity is entirely formed around her alliance
Rosalind Wiseman • Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World
She has friends in different groups and doesn’t treat people differently when groups are together. She can and will stand up to the Queen Bee in a way that treats them both with dignity.