Sublime

“A roshi is a person who has actualized that perfect freedom which is the potentiality for all human beings. He exists freely in the fullness of his whole being. The flow of his consciousness is not the fixed repetitive patterns of our usual self-centered consciousness, but rather arises spontaneously and naturally from the actual circumstances of

Get to know your blind spots.

Recognize that knowing what someone (including you) is like will tell you what you can expect from them.

(Paul Reps, Zen Flesh, Zen Bones,

But the really interesting thing is that the choice between trust and control is seldom debated on a rational level. It’s a choice that gets made based on deeply held, often unconscious assumptions we hold about people and their motivations.