Sublime

These seven steps are simple, but they are not easy. It takes a lot of effort to restore a relationship. That’s why Peter urged, “Work hard at living in peace with others.”26 But when you work for peace, you are doing what God would do. That’s why God calls peacemakers his children.27

Reconnection also demands the ingredients that created the connection in the first place: acceptance, compassion, love and gratitude for each other.

I don’t have the know-how to build you a brand-new house, but I can help fix pretty much anything in your old one. If you do, in fact, need a new house, I’ll send you to Francesco or Myron, or James and Fiona, all of them trustworthy builders and fine people. Odds are the house you’re in right now needs a few updates and minor upgrades, and I’d be

When it comes to repairing, our priority is reconnection.

communication, transparency, empathy, and mutual motivation to repair the friendship.

If something has gone sideways in your friendship, ask your friend to tell you what they’re feeling and thinking. Then be quiet and listen. Resist the urge to interrupt, defend, or answer back. Let them get out everything they need to say. After you clarify that you’ve understood them correctly by repeating back what you heard, ask, “Is it okay if

Ella said through tears that these friendship flame-outs showed her the four things that need to be in place for a friendship rift to heal: communication, transparency, empathy, and mutual motivation to repair the friendship.