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The antidote to this finishing-line mentality is learning how to hold. Holding means breaking the habit of leaning forward all the time. It means savoring the sensation of the wind against our skin, rather than trying to escape it. Dropping the goal orientation and feeling our orgasm for where it wants to go. Maybe it wants to move toward climax; m

Fundamentally, the Deep Resilience Method is mindfulness-based

It is an act of radical love.

keep your attention on your partner’s genitals and watch for signs of orgasm there. Are her labia swelling and getting darker? Is her pussy more lubricated? Can you see her genitals contracting or vibrating? These are all signs that “you’re doing it right.”

Interestingly, receivers value this instruction just as much as their strokers. When she knows he’s focusing on his own pleasure, it takes some of the pressure off. Performance anxiety can be a big part of a receiver’s early OM practice. We women may be tempted to default to old habits of augmenting our experience,

Natural rewards, including orgasm, contain a built-in satiety at consummation relying, inter alia, on endogenous opioids. But when we’re stuck in the dopaminergic excitement of seeking, Kringelbach explained, there is no signal telling us when to stop.

The best sex is the kind where you don’t want to move an inch. In Slow Sex, we nix the habit of trying to increase sensation by increasing speed and pressure. Instead, when we feel sensation decrease, we apply more attention. Rather than trying to add something, we look more and more carefully at what is already there.

This concept is beautifully covered in the OMG Yes course, in their module called “Broadening.”