Sublime

So here’s the thing: I have a good clue as to what women ultimately want. I’ve seen what it takes to be that kind of man. But somehow I forget it all whenever I meet a woman I am interested in and who might return my affections. I draw a complete blank, find myself trying to figure out what in the world she might want from me, and then worry that I

If one person’s extra need for safety is so great that he can’t allow the other person to both feel safe and do what she wants, that’s a relationship that’s too bad to stay in. Off-the-table-itis fits right into this. The

The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love. Don’t let emotional unavailability turn you on.

The Passion Trap: How to Right an Unbalanced Relationship by relationship therapist and psychologist Dean C. Delis. This was given to me by a friend when I was on the tail end of a very difficult relationship, and it was utterly illuminating. The author examines the psychological forces behind human attraction and explains the most common drivers

At first it will be mortifying to see that she is not always good, understanding, tolerant, controlled, and, above all, without needs, for these have been the basis of her self-respect.