Sublime

Psychology revealed a neglected advantage of being an introvert and a loner[11]. It turns out that introverts who are prone to melancholy are natural social psychologists!

these detailed measures can be grouped into five broad clusters: project meaning, manageability, connection, positive feelings, and negative feelings.

Choosing whom to commit ourselves to is therefore merely a case of identifying a specific kind of dissatisfaction we can bear rather than an occasion to escape from grief altogether.

feel able to express their needs and feelings, while maintaining the capacity for some independence.

You can even see the difference in people’s brain waves.

I still have an irresistible urge to defend myself and assign blame when something in a relationship goes wrong.

These four symptoms—negative changes in thought, mood, behavior, and physical response—diagnose depression, whether unipolar or normal.

Oliver Burkeman is the author of The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking, and for many years wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian, ‘This Column Will Change Your Life’. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies and New Philosopher.

Jeffrey Hall,