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Instead the successful couples learn how to manage the disagreements and live life ‘around’ them—to love in spite of their areas of difference… . If we switch partners, we’ll just get ten new areas of disagreement.”

To conduct a Me-Marriage requires two completely well-adjusted, happy individuals, with very little in the way of emotional neediness of their own or character flaws that need a lot of work. The problem is—there is almost no one like that out there to marry!

Intervention specialists caution the family to think hard about whether they are ready to

Spouses who are wise and loving will accept boundaries and act responsibly toward them. Spouses who are controlling and self-centered will react angrily.

“Every marriage is made up of two ingredients, togetherness and separateness. In good marriages, the partners carry equal loads of both of those. Let’s say there are 100 points of togetherness and 100 points of separateness. In a good relationship, one partner expresses 50 points of togetherness and 50 points of separateness, and the other does the

The impact on a marriage is also devastating, but only the trained eye can spot the damage. On the surface, the adaptive individual looks normal, and everything is always fine. If the surface is scratched, however, it’s a whole different story. It is hard to trust this partner. You never know what is real about her. You don’t know if she is doing w