Sublime

Lyn and Judy had both been caught up in a vogue—enthusiasm for the work of a man named Bernard Weiner. In the late 1960s Weiner, a young social psychologist at the University of California’s Los Angeles campus, had started to wonder why some people are high achievers and other people are not. He concluded that the way people think about the causes

Our deepest reserves of resilience come from knowing that other people are counting on us.

We can all be winners when acting in accordance with strengths and virtues.

Exercise Four: What Are You Good At?

Virtue, the modern mind believes, depends crucially on will and choice, whereas the underside of life stems more from external circumstances.

Because of their growth mindset, they did not feel permanently branded. Because of it, they tried to learn something useful about themselves and relationships, something they could use toward having a better experience in the future.

In short, people who believe in fixed traits feel an urgency to succeed, and when they do, they may feel more than pride.

But, as Billie Jean King tells us, the mark of a champion is the ability to win when things are not quite right—when you’re not playing well and your emotions are not the right ones.