Sublime

Jeff,

“Most good enough marriages have the potential to become stronger and better with time, effort, and commitment,”

We grow in connection with others. Everyone needs to hear that other person’s voice saying, I believe in you. I can see possibilities that you might not see quite yet. I imagine that something different can happen, in some form or another.

Marriage is not between ethereal souls or disembodied spirits but between real, flesh-and-blood human beings.

When healthy, they still bring in printouts and lists, but these no longer bother me. I now recognize them as expressions of anxiety about mortality—also serious stuff.

How do you choose the doctors, lawyers, plumbers, and car mechanics that you need in your life? You seldom select them on the basis of their technical knowledge or their academic qualifications. Here is the shocking truth: You actually choose them on the basis of their business skills. How they build their practices, how they market themselves, how

Study after study shows that the most important factor in the success of your treatment is your relationship with the therapist, your experience of “feeling felt.” This matters more than the therapist’s training, the kind of therapy they do, or what type of problem you have.

But there’s only one way to stay wealthy: some combination of frugality and paranoia.

in identifying tone, subtle shifts of mood, themes, and recurring metaphors, we become better at diagnosing and treating our patients.