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Most of us have no idea what kind of partner will fulfill us long term.

“Put together a spreadsheet of all the women you’ve gone out with in the last year. Make a column for their name, how you met them, how you felt when you were with them, and what values you shared. You can include other details, too, but I don’t want a laundry list of their flaws or a ranking of their hotness.”

relationshopping”— searching for our mate like we’d search for a new pair of shoes. But treating potential partners like potential purchases gets us into trouble.

just learned, the more a quality can be compared, the more important that trait seems.

Go on dates with people whom you don’t necessarily think are a fit. That’s the only way you can figure out what you actually like rather than assuming you already know.

Logan Ury, a top-tier dating coach, director of relationship science at the dating app Hinge, and author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone, she shared that the key to being liked by people, especially when you first meet them, is to be interested, not interesting.