Sublime

If you prefer, seek a therapist who knows how to deal with secrets. This will be a person of mercy, with no particular drum to bang about right and wrong, who knows the difference between guilt and remorse and about the nature of grieving and resurrection of spirit.

More children are removed from homes because of neglect than because of violating abuse. If you want to see clearly what happens to infants and young children when connection is withheld, watch any of Dr. Ed Tronick’s “still face” experiments on YouTube.

Lina’s hormone doctor told her that if people are denied certain parts of relationships they need as children, they hunt for these parts as adults.

This drive to emotionally attach — to find someone to whom we can turn and say “Hold me tight” — is wired into our genes and our bodies. It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex. We need emotional attachments with a few irreplaceable others to be physically and mentally healthy — to survive.

You will be able to hear what your inner critic and inner praiser have to say about your impulses, but you will also be able to hear your own inner voice and feel your own feelings and impulses.

standard psychological Attachment Scale that measures your social style