Sublime

inability to achieve idealized forms of erotic belonging is variously expressed as expectancy, deferral, lack, and as an inability to arrive, achieve, or actualize normative forms of belonging.

heterosexuality was something I was wearing. When you have to try hard to convince yourself of something, it usually means you are not convinced.

The personal is theoretical.

sem recear que seu valor como mulher ou sua seriedade como pessoa esteja em jogo.

present moment is more

Gendering operates in how bodies take up space:

These men bear the weight of public shaming, yet at the same time their shaming exposes a larger public to the reality that these forms of transgressive sex are in fact possible (even if also always threatening).

nebbish,

As the strong men and well women have grown ever more entangled, and ever more ambitious in their goals, I have felt a mounting foreboding about what their cookie-cutter version of perfection will mean to the countless people who fall outside their embrace.