Sublime

In Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children, authors Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson talk about healing one hole at a time. “There is no quick fix,” they write. “There is no magical, sudden way to borrow the needed skills and to reclaim our self-confidence and self-esteem. We must do it ourselves step by step; we must bui

Our individuality is entwined with our connectedness; so the work of healing and growth happens both alone and in relation to others.

“It must be me. I’m flawed,” you decide. You blame yourself

Debra Chamberlin-Taylor,

That’s why growing up without being seen, known, understood and approved by your parents leaves its mark upon you.

In my work with people in the helping professions, I have often been confronted with a childhood history that seems significant to me. • There was a mother* who at the core was emotionally insecure and who depended for her equilibrium on her child’s behaving in a particular way. This mother was able to hide her insecurity from her child and from ev

Built into our human brains from birth is an intense need for attention and understanding from our parents.

In his book Search for the Real Self, psychotherapist James Masterson