Sublime

"Why so self-referential?" they often ask. "Why refer everything back to the unreal relationship with the therapist?

Freud wrote about our stripping unpleasant emotion from memory.

The essence of psychotherapy lies in a willingness to get systematically interested in why we constantly respond in the bizarre and uncalled-for ways we exhibit. It asks by what sequence of formative experiences an otherwise perfectly decent and intelligent person could be led to sob on the floor or threaten to jump out of the window after an argum

Over sixty years ago, Carl Rogers, a pioneer in psychotherapy research, demonstrated that improvement in therapy was associated with a triad of therapist behaviors: genuineness, accurate empathy, and unconditional positive regard.

J’insistais sur le fait que Freud n’était pas juste le créateur de la psychanalyse, qui représente aujourd’hui moins de 1 % de toutes les thérapies disponibles, mais qu’il a inventé le champ même de la psychothérapie : avant lui, le domaine n’existait pas. Si je critique beaucoup l’analyse orthodoxe freudienne telle qu’elle se pratique aujourd’hui,

After twenty years of such wondering, I now believe that fears are not born of darkness; rather, fears are like the stars—always there, but obscured by the glare of daylight.

si les gens, intervint Philip, ont peur du contact avec les souffrants, n’est-ce pas parce qu’ils refusent d’être confrontés à la mort qui attend chacun d’entre eux ? »

“No man enjoys the true taste of life but he who is willing and ready to quit it.”

The therapist Terry Real described our well-worn behaviors as “our internalized family of origin. It’s our repertoire of relational themes.” People don’t have to tell you their stories with words because they always act them out for you. Often they project negative expectations onto the therapist, but if the therapist doesn’t meet those negative ex