Sublime

These are very scary times for a lot of people who are just now realizing that America is not, and has never been, the melting-pot utopia that their parents and teachers told them it was.

policies.

We are all told to aspire to the largest bite of our piece of the pie—no matter how meager our piece may be.

of racial inequities.

Ultimately, I let go of changing the other person. If someone gains insight from what I share, that is wonderful. But the objective that guides me is my own need to break with white solidarity, even when it’s uncomfortable, which it almost always is. In the end, my actions are driven by my own need for integrity, not a need to correct or change som

I am entitled to remain comfortable/have this conversation the way I want to.

Men Explain Things to Me—and

harnessing his individuality,

With race as a nonissue, I can focus on my work and productivity and be seen as a team player.