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Dr. Helen Fisher, professor at Rutgers University and renowned relationship anthropologist, reports that serial monogamy has now become the norm, suggesting that most of us will have two or three significant relationships in our lifetimes. The implication being, of course, that most of us will also go through one or two significant romantic endings
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The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity—and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race
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The Moral Animal: Why We Are, the Way We Are: The New Science of Evolutionary Psychology
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lived. The evolutionary anthropologist Helen Fisher says that the hormonal cocktail of romance (dopamine, norepineprine, and PEA) is known to last no more than a few years at best. Oxytocin, the cuddling hormone, outlasts them all.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
lived. The evolutionary anthropologist Helen Fisher says that the hormonal cocktail of romance (dopamine, norepineprine, and PEA) is known to last no more than a few years at best. Oxytocin, the cuddling hormone, outlasts them all.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
Knowing about the attachment styles empowers people to harness their biology to work for them rather than against them.
Amir Levine • Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
the need to be near someone special is so important that the brain has a biological mechanism specifically responsible for creating and regulating our connection with our attachment figures (parents, children, and romantic partners). This mechanism, called the attachment system, consists of emotions and behaviors that ensure that we remain safe and
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Sue Carter’s research. Sue is both my colleague and wife. Sue discovered the relationship between oxytocin and social bonding.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
Having the right oxytocin genes makes you more affiliative towards and trusting of your partner (an attitude that is probably enhanced by oestrogen in women), but endorphins give you long-term bonding stability and dopamine creates that sense of excitement provided by the relationship, especially a newly formed one.