Sublime

A good man—what comes to mind when you think of a that? Often it’s someone in baggy khaki pants and unpolished shoes with a tucked-in polo shirt that doesn’t fit properly. He spends his life wrestling with insecurities and trying not to do bad things.

Lars is a fairly typical Nice Guy when it comes to his needs. Nice Guys generally focus their attention on meeting everyone else’s needs while trying to be “low maintenance” kinds of guys themselves.

a dude, meaning an average guy or gal just like ourselves. And a problem: something that this average guy must dig deep inside himself to conquer.

Remember, the Nice Guy is the one keeping score, and he isn’t totally objective.

•A man who takes good care of himself. •A man who is honest and transparent. •A man who can reveal what he is thinking and feeling. •A man who has integrity. •A man who can admit fault and laugh at himself. •A man who embraces his masculinity. •A man who has good guy friends. •A man who is comfortable with his sexuality.

The guys that guys envy, girls like.

represents a challenge to everything Nice Guys believe about what they must do to be loved, get their needs met, and keep their world calm.