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Describe your ideal self—the qualities you’d most like to embody—in five words. Then, to find your shadow self, locate the opposing qualities of each one. The shadow self describes the parts of ourselves we most ardently reject and repress. I think my ideal self would be: insightful, generous, authentic, funny, discerning. That means my shadow self... See more

Haley Nahman • #222: In what specific way are you annoying?

but first wishfully (in fantasy) and then in reality, if one is lucky.

Adam Phillips • Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life

In so doing, Jan reassures herself that she’s not the destructive and powerfully ruthless one—he is. No matter how strong she is, no matter how excited she gets, no matter how out of control her impulses might be, her fantasy partner will never become overwhelmed. Since he is selfishly taking exactly what he wants, Jan can be confident that he’s

Michael J. Bader • Arousal

Creating an alter ego for fantasy-work can be used for good and can be positive. It can also be used for bad. Freud felt this way as well. He felt that alter egos were connected to narcissism in childhood. There is a dark component to alter egos and that’s why fantasy-work should be in dialogue with reality.

The Lost Art Of Alter Egos.

So the challenge now is to write a new version of this fantasy that describes the version of myself that currently feels impossible, and then simply orient myself towards that until it becomes true.

Autotranslucence • Becoming a Magician

FutureSelf

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We exist on multiple Fields of Play. The home field, the sports field, the friends field, the work/career field, the hobby field, the health and wellness field, and so forth. On each of these fields, we’re called to take on different roles. Each role has a different set of requirements.

Todd Herman • The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life

Your fantasies about your ideal life may not appear to be practical or profitable.