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He still harbors a deep, unconscious terror that he will once again be used and betrayed. Dominating every situation becomes his only way of creating a sense of safety for himself.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Berne defined strokes as the recognition one person gives another, as essential for physical and psychological health.
Eric Berne • Games People Play
Berne created another door. He asked patients for a clear contract—“What do you want to change, and how will we know when you have?”—questions that lead to a clear delineation of goals and, therefore, to specific criteria by which to judge the success
Eric Berne • Games People Play
Making Sense of People: Decoding the Mysteries of Personality (FT Press Science)
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When one stops struggling against fate, one loses his neurosis (internal conflict) and gains peace of mind.
Dr. Alexander Lowen M.D. • Fear of Life: The Wisdom of Failure
The gift of this strategy is that she then becomes skillful at sensing the needs of others and providing what’s needed.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Your habitual ways of interacting with the important people in your life tell us a great deal about the defense mechanisms you typically use.