Sublime
An inspiration engine for ideas
The All-or-Nothing Marriage — Eli J. Finkel
elifinkel.com
as with everything, the internet is unbundling and then re-bundling. We unbundled songs from CDs and rebundled on playlists. We unbundled articles from newspapers and rebundled them on social feeds. And now like it or not we’re doing that to core societal institutions like dating and marriage. We basically just unbundled all pair mating relationshi... See more
Balaji S. Srinivasan • If Einstein Had The Internet: An Interview With Balaji Srinivasan
In The All-or-Nothing Marriage, Eli Finkel, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, traces the history of the institution over what he sees as three thematic eras: marriage for practical reasons, marriage for love, marriage for self-expression/fulfillment/meaning.
The All-or-Nothing Marriage — Eli J. Finkel
Our partners aren’t uniquely damaged. We just know them a lot better than the exciting stranger. Our partner suffers from the disadvantages of incumbency: of having been in our lives for so long that we have had the opportunity to be patiently introduced to the full range of their inadequacies. Our certainty that we might be happier with another pe
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
provide? He now viewed a successful relationship as one in which both people had recognized the best of what the other person had to offer and had chosen to value it as well.