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De-escalating Disconnection
Sue Johnson • Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships
Systems of parts and people tend to polarize, form protective alliances, and exclude or cut off from each other whenever they are traumatized and lack effective leadership.
Ph.D. Richard Schwartz • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
the value of treating emotional problems by non-interference, by the provision of a holding environment in which ‘natural’ growth processes could reassert themselves. ‘If we can adjust ourselves to these natural processes,’ he writes, ‘we can leave most of these complex mechanisms to nature, while we sit back and watch and learn.”
Adam Phillips • Winnicott
if ever there was someone who could play the victim card,
John M. Perkins • One Blood: Parting Words to the Church on Race and Love
The job of protectors[1] is to protect you from feeling pain.
Jay Earley • Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy
Carl Rogers
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance
To call attention to the feelings and needs underneath painful interactions, we not only unpack the couple’s external, interpersonal dynamics, we also unpack their internal, intrapersonal dynamics, which motivate protectors. As long as protectors keep activating over the course of therapy, we track their interactions.
Toni Herbine-Blank • Internal Family Systems Couple Therapy Skills Manual: Healing Relationships with Intimacy From the Inside Out
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