Sublime

But stopping before “you’ve written yourself out” will absolutely get your subconscious engaged in working through the problem at hand.

We can so easily become attached to our desire to have things our way even when it is clear that it is not going to happen. This clinging and grasping fan the initial embers of anger caused by frustration or annoyance. An essential part of the development of patience is learning to sense this type of discontent at its embryonic stage so that we can

“Hey now! Where’s the fire?”

Anger doesn’t just activate the go system; it drops a heavy brick on the gas pedal. It’s a force that motivates people to speak up and act, but it can also make them less effective in doing so. After studying activists, Debra Meyerson and Maureen Scully suggest that the key is to be “simultaneously hot- and cool-headed. The heat fuels action and

But if you are frazzled and feeling like you’re going to snap? Three things: 1. Stop

“Calm down.” Because beneath the noise of the pounding, swirling surf is a place where all is quiet and clear.

played a decisive role in fusing jazz and rock with his seminal 1970 release Bitches Brew,

“I will not discuss this further with you if you continue to yell and scream at me. I am willing to be supportive if you can calmly tell me what it is that you want or need.” Note that you’ve given the BP a choice and made it clear that his or her actions will be responsible for your temporary withdrawal. If the raging continues, immediately