Sublime

Mama-spoiled black man, will you mature with me? Culture-bearing black woman, whose culture are you bearing?

It was a message for the world but it seemed to come directly for them.

Each time I walk into a Nigerian restaurant with a man, the waiter greets the man and ignores me. The waiters are products of a society that has taught them that men are more important than women, and I know that they don’t intend harm, but it is one thing to know something intellectually, and quite another to feel it emotionally.

paucity

Chimamanda Adichie and Helon Habila. She cited Kaine Agary’s Yellow-Yellow as a book that’s similar

In teaching her about oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints. Saintliness is not a prerequisite for dignity. People who are unkind and dishonest are still human, and still deserve dignity.

Feminism and femininity are not mutually exclusive.

So, madness and mess. Something that took up space. Something that felt furiously alive, because survival could be so very, very angry.