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In my work with people in the helping professions, I have often been confronted with a childhood history that seems significant to me. • There was a mother* who at the core was emotionally insecure and who depended for her equilibrium on her child’s behaving in a particular way. This mother was able to hide her insecurity from her child and from
... See moreAlice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
Children who are intelligent, alert, attentive, sensitive, and completely attuned to the mothers well-being are entirely at her disposal.
Alice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
the book The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller.
Timothy Ferriss • Tools Of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers
At first it will be mortifying to see that she is not always good, understanding, tolerant, controlled, and, above all, without needs, for these have been the basis of her self-respect.
Alice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
It is one of the turning points in therapy when the patient comes to the emotional insight that all the love she has captured with so much effort and self-denial was not meant for her as she really was, that the admiration for her beauty and achievements was aimed at this beauty and these achievements and not at the child herself. In therapy, the
... See moreAlice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller.
Ferriss, Timothy • Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers
Does not mother love belong to the “smallest,” but also indispensable, things in life, for which many people paradoxically have to pay by giving up their living selves?
Alice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
Winnicott’s crucial insight was that the parents’ agony was coming from a particular place: excessive hope. Their despair was a consequence of a cruel and counterproductive perfectionism. To help them reduce this, Winnicott developed a charming phrase: ‘the good enough parent’. No child, he insisted, needs an ideal parent. They just need an OK,
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