You blow the presentation and spend the drive home scripting perfect comebacks to an audience that’s already gone. Your relationship ends, and you spend months replaying conversations that can’t be changed. All the time spent perfecting the past is stolen from the future that’s still waiting.
Optimize for enthusiasm. Make as many choices as you can that leave you feeling energetic and interested. Pay attention to when you have the urge to pursue or participate in something and do more of it.”
"When I was a brand-new lieutenant, I asked my father, “How would I know if somebody that I worked for or worked for me was going to be a good commander in combat? ... How would you tell in peacetime?” He says, “You won’t. You won’t know because people have capabilities or coping mechanisms that in peacetime look fine, that doesn’t play well in... See more