praline

i used to think self-care had to feel pleasant to count. i’ve learned that sometimes it feels like cleaning out a drawer you have avoided for months—dusty, a little embarrassing, very worth it. i’ll notice a petty thought and choose not to feed it. i’ll notice jealousy and ask what it wants from me besides a sour stomach. i’ll notice i’m rehearsing... See more

In défense of fan girl

This is troubling, given that idolization has proven to be a healthy form of growth for girls who want a safe, insular way to explore new romantic feelings and interpersonal relationships. And

Instead, "fangirl" is an idea that has been compounded with the idea of irrational, silly and hysteric excitement, which is reductive at... See more

Being a fangirl is a huge part of their lives and means an awful lot to them.

It's an incredible thing to be a part of such a big, loving community - you football fans out there should know that - and there should be no shame in proclaiming your love for your favourite musician, actor or sports star. Because that's exactly what fangirls do: they imm... See more

Fan girl are crazy, obsessive, desperate, shallow, hysterical teenage females, who only care about the attractiveness of the artist or band members in question. What would they know about music?

So here's my theory: fangirls are one step ahead of a lot of music journalists. Because they devour and dissect every single interview and performance there... See more