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Philip Soriano
Some reports about ISIS find that it is less akin to a religion and more akin to a gang.20 Why? ISIS fills many of the parameters sought by boys without dads: purpose, excitement, and identity.
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
- A quote from Japanese author and Buddhist monk Yoshida Kenko way back in 1330(!) on the value of reading books:
“It is a most wonderful comfort to sit alone beneath a lamp, book spread before you, and commune with someone from the past whom you have never met.”from 3-2-1: On saying no, the importance of focus, and reading books by James Clear
The dynamic of friendship is almost always underestimated as a constant force in human life. A diminishing circle of friends is the first terrible diagnostic of a life in deep trouble: of overwork, of too much emphasis on a professional identity, of forgetting who will be there when our armoured personalities run into the inevitable natural disaste
... See morefrom Friendship Forever by Roger's Bacon
But while the changes in a dad’s brain do resemble those in a mom’s, the dad brain also drives contributions that are different from mom’s. For mom, it’s baby talk and staring into the baby’s eyes; for dad, it’s playful touching and behavior, physically moving the baby, and introducing the baby to new objects.34
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
- The high centrality participants, Sievers and his coauthors wrote, were much more “likely to adapt their own brain activity to the group,” and “played an outsized role in creating group alignment by facilitating conversation.” But they didn’t merely mirror others—rather, they gently led people, nudging them to hear one another, or to explain themse... See more
- One of the biggest shifts in mindset around inheritance is that most Americans now favor the idea of “giving while living.” Two-thirds say they prefer to distribute part of their estate, 30% on average, while still alive (Figure 5) . That provides both a means of directing the distribution and the opportunity to see the inheritance benefiting the n... See more
from Leaving a Legacy: A Lasting Gift to Loved Ones by Merrill Lynch Wealth Management
dads’ greater tendency to take their children to parks or playgrounds, or teach them by doing, such as being a “sous-chef” with dad in the kitchen. They also missed the games dads tend to create to make otherwise boring activities fun—such as turning a shopping cart into a basketball hoop and toilet paper into a ball.
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
During roughhousing, dads and kids are typically 100 percent energized, laughing, spontaneous, and, yes, silly. The dads were almost always able to distinguish between their son or daughter being excited-scared and scared-scared. When the dad picked up any sense of his son or daughter being scared-scared, he backed off.
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
Rather than his motto being “When the going gets tough, the tough get going,” the motto for the evolved boy is “When the going gets tough, tune in to know when to tough it out.”
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD