nicole

Givers think that conversations unfold as a series of invitations; takers think conversations unfold as a series of declarations. When giver meets giver or taker meets taker, all is well. When giver meets taker, however, giver gives, taker takes, and giver gets resentful (“Why won’t he ask me a single question?”) while taker has a lovely time (“She... See more

[5:45] Getting comfortable with not accomplishing tasks and using a calendar more as an inspiration and a guide as to what I want to spend my life with tends to be really, really helpful, and I found that going from not putting things in my calendar if I'm afraid I won't complete them because it will really bother me, to actually putting them in my... See more

No. But somebody raised a great point to me that the world’s sort of shifted and now Instagram is a museum. Instagram inherently, I put less content on it because it’s like a showcase and it reflects on me forever. And when you go to Snapchat, my response to Snapchat, it’s like a crowded bar. There is content flying everywhere; it’s lose, it’s fun.... See more

[11:24] ...this will be physically blocked into my calendar ... it's not like this ... terrible thing that dictates my life and just schedules all my work things, it's kind of my life on a screen in a positive way, because I can organize it and put in whatever I want.

The gamification style feels like a low respect for your users. I'm going to give you some flashy star doing this thing, good job. It's like you're treating them like those elementary school kids. Whereas, give them awesome tools and then trust that they know their goals. If their goals line up with your goals, they're going to use them well. Just... See more

[10:26] The Fun Factor

The main reason we don’t create more affordances, however, is pure egocentrism. When we just say whatever pops into our heads, we may think we’re making craggy, climbable conversational rock walls, when in fact we’re creating completely frictionless surfaces. For example, I’m thrilled to tell you about the 126 escape rooms I’ve done, but my love... See more