Marty Bell
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Marty Bell
Maturity is realizing that you are not supposed to be for everyone. You are not the center of everyone’s universe. At the same time, you are the creator of your own. You get to decide who gets to be a part of your story, and how much
Brianna W
‘There is a meaning to life that can be peripherally sensed by being astounded or astounding others. And it may be fully glimpsed by astounding yourself.’
Jo Tinsley • The Odditorium
I know that if you have a serious dispute with someone, it will go nowhere unless you clearly name the underlying emotion that you’re struggling with. If you’re afraid that your partner will abandon you, cataloging their flaws will not communicate this effectively.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
Generous people view their possessions as temporary; they are joining in a bigger story. Generous people are always looking toward the needs of others by using what they have been given. Things don’t matter; people do. They open their house to others. They open their pool for parties. They let people borrow their cars. They freely give, with no
... See moreJeff Shinabarger • More or Less: Choosing a Lifestyle of Excessive Generosity
I’ve come to realize that these mass-market feeds, driven by algorithms, erode the quality of my attention. And attention—what I focus on, what I give myself to—shapes everything. It’s how reality is experienced. How life is lived. I want more agency over what enters my awareness, because what I consume shapes how I think, how I feel, and... See more
Steve Schlafman • Tweet
Reliability is what makes a community
- I know that almost nobody hears too many sincere compliments. Compliment them to their face. Then, compliment them behind their back. Practice naming pleasant feelings you have about people, as soon as they bubble up, in the moment: “It’s always fun to see you.” Lower the resistance around this to zero.