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Our survival at the very beginning of our lives involves us in something like monogamy. Our growing up involves us in something like infidelity (we challenge our parents, we betray them, we let them down). So when we think about monogamy we think about it as though we are still children and not adults as well. We don’t know what adults think about... See more

This year I’ve been practicing the art of the ugly first draft. The prototype that barely functions. The essay that doesn’t know what it wants to say yet. It’s not because I’ve lowered my standards, but because I’ve learned that excellence emerges from iteration, not immaculate conception