Kamillah Rae

Why is having a bf really embarrassing? Bc a new generation of women are comparing the lives of married women vs those of single. Anecdotally & statistically— and are many times coming to the conclusion that heteronormative partnered life poses more risk to their health, happiness, & fulfillment than just staying single. The patriarchy state is trying to combat this by creating more legislation to force women back into the subordinate role we’ve played in society for centuries, by banning birth control, and abortions, so women have more babies. Then making schools, grocery stores, and healthcare less regulated and more unsafe, so that a mother loses trust in any systems to support her in raising her kids, so she has to spend all her time and energy doing it herself. She becomes consumed with this unpaid labor (that all in society benefit from). She has to rely on a man for income. And we’re back to patriarchy running smoothly. But I don’t think we’re gonna get with the program. Because the thing about feminism is it’s an inherently grass roots movement. Because those patriarchy is a state and establishment, it gets right to the heart in dating and relationships. If women say no. If women say I will no more, you will have to rise to meet me when I am. You must grow like I’ve grown to have access to me. We will be unwilling, not from a place of masculine frigidity, but of feminine feeling. We’ll honor the wisdom that comes from our feelings, and use that to guide our life decisions, not proximity to a man.

Maybe bday gift to myself?

I think the flow of these episodes are:

Documentary style sitcom where the characters are aware that they’re being filmed/interviewed.

Main character is Ellie who just moved to NY from Ohio. She’s 25, and we watch her go/grow through common mid 20s nyc struggles. She is personally affected by the cost of living crisis, quickly realizing $1500 won’t get her far, and settles for a 3 person loft for the summer, which I think is a great deal. Although she’s college educated and has actual job experience in marketing, she’s personally affected by yet another larger societal problem: the trash job market. She lucks out on a waitress job at a fancy restaurant where celebs eat. In one episode gender tensions/sexism is addressed with the cat calling. Even global warming/climate change w the broken AC in the heat of summer. I like how they’re making these issues meaningful on an interpersonal level.

but they also get into more truly interpersonal challenges like feeling lonely in a new city by yourself, getting along with roommates.

But back to the cold open. It seems like each episode starts with an interview. I assume the camera man/director/interlocutor asks a question and the episode starts as the character is answering the question, because the beginning of their responses contain questions. For example in episode 18, the guy roommate says “what’s it like living with white roommates?” And then proceeds to answer. He gives a summary answer, and then we cut to a scene that illustrates his answer.

In this episode, he was going to hang with a friend at the record room. The interview seems to take place just before his commute there. After he answers the initial question, we cut to a scene with him at home experiencing a cultural difference with the girls. And then he says by and heads out the door. So there’s continuity in the actual plot line to. Much more to unpack!

Almost 300k bw laid off this year. Seems like we were the lucky ones. Also what happens to women in the workforce in their 30s? Seems like many are pushed out, and that’s why we don’t really see bw in senior positions at these companies. Is that what happened to my mom fr? Yes she had more freedom w her own business to be with her family. But by leaving corporate she missed out on essential wealth building tools like 401k and stock plans. How would her life have been different? If she was able to continue building wealth on her own, what more choice could she have had, to live her life her way?

Omg we really used to be gatherers. She’s so knowledgeable about these acorns. What else does she know? Could be helpful for people in food crisis