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There is a corollary for relationships. Some relationships are hard, or even impossible, to change. As an individual, you grow—but your father won’t acknowledge that change or adapt to it, and the relationship gets stuck. Other relationships are fluid and open-ended, they grow to fit you better and better the more time you invest in them, like an o... See more
Henrik Karlsson • Relationships are coevolutionary loops
Lots of pain at work comes from being someone else. It’s only when we find or create a job in which we can truly be ourselves, that we realize how much time we actually lost or wasted trying to be (or become) someone else. And once your job is all about being you, becoming better at your job suddenly turns into becoming better at being you. Consequ... See more
Thomas Klaffke • Pleasure Activism
moving on to acceptance
...was going to be in for the long run, i’m not going to get yes’s right away
and part of that means i’ll have to keep searching and with every ‘no’ i receive, it refines further what i want
if getting a yes was so easy i’d recklessly pursue just about anything, right?
(self-chat log 27/04/2024)
In We Need To Rewild The Internet, Maria Farrell and Robin Berjon make a very compelling and urgent case for aggressively rewilding the internet, as Big Tech monopolies have turned what was once a thriving ecosystem into single-crop plantations: “highly concentrated and controlled environments, closer kin to the industrial farming of the cattle fee... See more
- Work that benefits from my specific skills and ideas.
- Work that benefits the people who receive it.
- A salary that enables me to live a comfortable life, to be generous, and to save for retirement.
- The ability to work from the sunny spot of my couch with my dog.
- The ability to take a nap, run errands, or go to the cinema during the workday if I need/wan
Lynn Fisher • Unordered, incomplete list of things I want from a job
While those sorts of reactions might feel like the right things to do at the time, they don’t really help: instead of feeling better, we will likely feel even worse. Our whole body might be filled with even more uncomfortable sensations: those are the “second darts” we create, which we then react to even more, by which discomfort or physical pain t... See more
What Is Awakening?
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a
... See moreRainer Maria Rilke • Letters to a Young Poet
More importantly, it’s about listening to your own self like you really, really matter. It’s taking time to actually connect with yourself, ask yourself the deep and meaningful questions about who you are, what makes you tick, and what you absolutely don’t want to do.
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
make it a point to take myself on dates and ask myself about these questions, check in and make sure I am staying authentic. being reflective of how I am showing up for others and myself.
I won’t speak for anyone else, but I will say that this is the first time in my life that I’m not so confident the future’s going to be as rosy as I once was. The reasons work life might not be number one on the priority list right now are not lost on me. But I am still nostalgic for a time when the gravitational pull of work was strong. For me and... See more