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To keep critical feedback in the first category, the research tells us that it should have five elements: the care of the recipient in mind; respectful delivery; good intentions; a pathway to improvement; and appropriate targeting of the recipient’s needs.
How to Take—And Give—Criticism Well
Not everything I've wanted has manifested. This has usually been a blessing in disguise. Too many times I've believed that I wanted and needed something, but it was all for the wrong reasons. Over the years I've gained clarity and sighed with relief for not getting what I thought was surely meant for me. Often, I've not got what I wanted, only to... See more
Vex King • Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness
While those sorts of reactions might feel like the right things to do at the time, they don’t really help: instead of feeling better, we will likely feel even worse. Our whole body might be filled with even more uncomfortable sensations: those are the “second darts” we create, which we then react to even more, by which discomfort or physical pain... See more
What Is Awakening?
This kind of clubbishness seems to be especially congenial to men, who seem to enjoy the ritual aspects offered by formal speeches, songs, toasts and parades that require a level of self-discipline, attention to a master of ceremonies and willingness to be silent – especially so when these groups are all-male.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
I won’t speak for anyone else, but I will say that this is the first time in my life that I’m not so confident the future’s going to be as rosy as I once was. The reasons work life might not be number one on the priority list right now are not lost on me. But I am still nostalgic for a time when the gravitational pull of work was strong. For me and... See more
Brie Wolfson • What I Miss About Working at Stripe
As a political theorist, hooks believed fiercely in the power of naming systems—her recurring phrase, in defining what we are up against, was “white supremacist capitalist patriarchy.”5 But she was far more ambivalent about the impulse to attach identity signifiers to our beings, to brand ourselves as a this, or a that. In her landmark 1984 book,
... See moreNaomi Klein • Doppelganger: A Trip Into the Mirror World
moving on to acceptance
...was going to be in for the long run, i’m not going to get yes’s right away
and part of that means i’ll have to keep searching and with every ‘no’ i receive, it refines further what i want
if getting a yes was so easy i’d recklessly pursue just about anything, right?
(self-chat log 27/04/2024)
