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What we often think of as needs are actually strategies for addressing our needs. For example, you might want a cup of coffee in the morning. That’s not a need (much as it might feel like it is!). The need might be to feel more alert. Or to warm up. Or to engage in a shared social activity with a loved one in the kitchen. The cup of coffee is a... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
I need to feel freedom, so I come up with strategies to experience it, but they are often painful because I’m not directly expressing the need for it. So, how can I directly pursue my need for freedom?
patriarchy mystifies technology, casting it as a domain beyond the possibility of comprehension for all but certain experts. Mystification hides the economics of accumulation that technologies serve, turning people’s attention to a marvelous innovation instead of the extraction it enables.
Nathan Schneider • Governable Spaces: Democratic Design for Online Life
o my surprise, looking for a "self" was much more straightforward than I thought it would be. Many other things were seen (and heard, felt, etc.), such as thoughts about breakfast, memories about what had happened the day before, noises in the room, discomfort in my body: all that was definitely there. And my mind was quiet enough that, if there... See more
What Is Awakening?
To honor individuals, we need to offer in individual portal into the network. A place where you aren't constrained by societal norms, by the need to reply, but instead where you can think about what it is you're thinking about... use others' thoughts to move through the space... and emerge with an artifact that represents your thinking, but also... See more
Plexus
There should be lots of different, human-scale alternative experiences on the internet that offer up home-cooked, locally-grown, ethically-sourced, code-to-table alternatives to the factory-farmed junk food of the internet. And they should be weird.
Anil Dash • The Internet Is About to Get Weird Again
Lots of pain at work comes from being someone else. It’s only when we find or create a job in which we can truly be ourselves, that we realize how much time we actually lost or wasted trying to be (or become) someone else. And once your job is all about being you, becoming better at your job suddenly turns into becoming better at being you.... See more
Thomas Klaffke • Pleasure Activism
moving on to acceptance
...was going to be in for the long run, i’m not going to get yes’s right away
and part of that means i’ll have to keep searching and with every ‘no’ i receive, it refines further what i want
if getting a yes was so easy i’d recklessly pursue just about anything, right?
(self-chat log 27/04/2024)
There is a corollary for relationships. Some relationships are hard, or even impossible, to change. As an individual, you grow—but your father won’t acknowledge that change or adapt to it, and the relationship gets stuck. Other relationships are fluid and open-ended, they grow to fit you better and better the more time you invest in them, like an... See more