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That might have as much to do with the fact that men’s friendships are dominated, at the best of times, by an out-of-sight-out-of-mind effect.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
mentioned during dinner party week 14 / 2024
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a
... See moreRainer Maria Rilke • Letters to a Young Poet
- Work that benefits from my specific skills and ideas.
- Work that benefits the people who receive it.
- A salary that enables me to live a comfortable life, to be generous, and to save for retirement.
- The ability to work from the sunny spot of my couch with my dog.
- The ability to take a nap, run errands, or go to the cinema during the workday if I
Lynn Fisher • Unordered, incomplete list of things I want from a job
There is a corollary for relationships. Some relationships are hard, or even impossible, to change. As an individual, you grow—but your father won’t acknowledge that change or adapt to it, and the relationship gets stuck. Other relationships are fluid and open-ended, they grow to fit you better and better the more time you invest in them, like an... See more
Henrik Karlsson • Relationships Are Coevolutionary Loops
More importantly, it’s about listening to your own self like you really, really matter. It’s taking time to actually connect with yourself, ask yourself the deep and meaningful questions about who you are, what makes you tick, and what you absolutely don’t want to do.
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
make it a point to take myself on dates and ask myself about these questions, check in and make sure I am staying authentic. being reflective of how I am showing up for others and myself.
Alternative Prosperity: Reframing The "Good Life"
klaffket.gumroad.com
What we often think of as needs are actually strategies for addressing our needs. For example, you might want a cup of coffee in the morning. That’s not a need (much as it might feel like it is!). The need might be to feel more alert. Or to warm up. Or to engage in a shared social activity with a loved one in the kitchen. The cup of coffee is a... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
I need to feel freedom, so I come up with strategies to experience it, but they are often painful because I’m not directly expressing the need for it. So, how can I directly pursue my need for freedom?
Creative Destruction | Thomas Klaffke | Substack
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