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There is a corollary for relationships. Some relationships are hard, or even impossible, to change. As an individual, you grow—but your father won’t acknowledge that change or adapt to it, and the relationship gets stuck. Other relationships are fluid and open-ended, they grow to fit you better and better the more time you invest in them, like an... See more

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a

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It also touches on the Mandela Effect, ie. many people recalling the same event that never happened, or remembering details that don't reflect reality. Some people see the Mandela Effect as a form of glitched cultural deja vu, while others think it's just common misinterpretation, like mishearing lyrics to a popular song.

One antidote is to allow yourself to imagine what it might feel like to know you'd never fully get on top of your work, never become a really disciplined exerciser or healthy eater, never resolve the personal issue you feel defines your life's troubles. What if I'll always feel behind with my email? What if listening attentively to other people

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There should be lots of different, human-scale alternative experiences on the internet that offer up home-cooked, locally-grown, ethically-sourced, code-to-table alternatives to the factory-farmed junk food of the internet. And they should be weird.

An important distinction to make, therefore, is the difference between a fetter and a behavior which indicates we have that fetter. For example, craving itself is not a fetter; it is merely a symptom of being fettered by desire. While we and those around us might tend to notice behaviors and consider those to be fetters, the actual fetter is the... See more