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The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a
... See moreRainer Maria Rilke • Letters to a Young Poet
In We Need To Rewild The Internet, Maria Farrell and Robin Berjon make a very compelling and urgent case for aggressively rewilding the internet, as Big Tech monopolies have turned what was once a thriving ecosystem into single-crop plantations: “highly concentrated and controlled environments, closer kin to the industrial farming of the cattle... See more
What we often think of as needs are actually strategies for addressing our needs. For example, you might want a cup of coffee in the morning. That’s not a need (much as it might feel like it is!). The need might be to feel more alert. Or to warm up. Or to engage in a shared social activity with a loved one in the kitchen. The cup of coffee is a... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
I need to feel freedom, so I come up with strategies to experience it, but they are often painful because I’m not directly expressing the need for it. So, how can I directly pursue my need for freedom?
This kind of clubbishness seems to be especially congenial to men, who seem to enjoy the ritual aspects offered by formal speeches, songs, toasts and parades that require a level of self-discipline, attention to a master of ceremonies and willingness to be silent – especially so when these groups are all-male.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
o my surprise, looking for a "self" was much more straightforward than I thought it would be. Many other things were seen (and heard, felt, etc.), such as thoughts about breakfast, memories about what had happened the day before, noises in the room, discomfort in my body: all that was definitely there. And my mind was quiet enough that, if there... See more
What Is Awakening?
One antidote is to allow yourself to imagine what it might feel like to know you'd never fully get on top of your work, never become a really disciplined exerciser or healthy eater, never resolve the personal issue you feel defines your life's troubles. What if I'll always feel behind with my email? What if listening attentively to other people
... See moreOliver Burkeman • What if you never sort your life out?
That might have as much to do with the fact that men’s friendships are dominated, at the best of times, by an out-of-sight-out-of-mind effect.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
mentioned during dinner party week 14 / 2024