Greta Markurt

The real reason you're tired all the time: It's not your workload. It's your open loops. The text you haven't answered. The apology you owe. The decision you're avoiding. The conversation you keep postponing. These run in the background of your mind all day, draining your battery. Close your loops. Watch your energy return. Mental clutter is more... See more

the assumption of selfishness seems naive. Social interactions require collaboration and cooperation with others. Selfishness and egotism are not traits associated with the ability to interact fruitfully with other people. Cooperating and caring about others is not, in that sense, “irrational”.

The Law of Talion, one of the oldest recorded laws dating back to Babylonian times, states that retaliation should be in proportion to the offence: "an eye for an eye." The reciprocity of the Law of Talion can be found in the oldest known code of law, the Code of Hammurabi from 1750 BCE.

While disagreements can be deep and fierce, looking for a minimal common ground and peaceful ways to settle conflicts is likely more valuable in the long term.

Once physical elimination is off the table, you still have to share the society you live in with the people you committed violence against. Political violence is typically not the end of a conflict but the start of more tension and violence.

However, our propensity to entertain violence is likely miscalibrated to our modern world, where the cost of violence is very high for the perpetrator.

what you owe is to yourself: a steady nervous system, a baseline of peace, the ability to trust that if something feels off, you don’t have to stick around long enough to find out just how off it really is

so let them . let them flake. let them disappear. let them ghost. let them cancel last minute and call it “busy.” let them be inconsistent. let them forget to ask how you’re doing. let them not show up. and then stop explaining it away. stop turning their apathy into depth. stop turning their detachment into mystery. stop making excuses for... See more