Heather

“The sin of progressive or left politics is being on the right side of history too early. Of seeing the potential for a better world and trying to bring it to light before it’s considered undeniably the right way.“

“We feel like we are sowing seeds of peace through our loving communication and then get frustrated when others don’t lovingly germinate our seeds. We point to the barrenness of their soil as the issue. ‘I planted loving seeds; you didn’t germinate them.’“

“Validation creates attunement: permission for the complex, nuanced reality of any experience to simply exist, free from the habitual, conditioned resistance of the mind. By connecting deeply to what is, we begin to soften our white-knuckled grip of resistance. Our notion of what should be and shouldn’t be is our fantasy of the moment. Our

“At best, our judgements of others; behaviour leave others ashamed of the behaviour, stewing in a sense of badness or wrongess at what we did, yet without the necessary inspiration to find healthier, more aligned behaviours. This is because the unmet needs that triggered those behaviours go unrecognised.“

“Recognising the unconscious mechanism of the mind in conflict, while at first a little confronting, enables us to respond to circumstances rather than reacting to circumstances. We start to see that the ‘this or that’ mechanism of the mind is also the source of our suffering as it leads us effortlessly, habitually and unconsciously into a

“Often, having compassion towards someone who has done horrifically hurtful things is seen as condoning their actions, or dismissing the terrible impact their actions caused…We hold an unconscious belief that the withdrawal of our compassion towards their badness is a measure of our own moral goodness, and that we might somehow teach them a lesson