Ella Bassey
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Ella Bassey
The disgustingly educated are not “know-it-alls.” They’re “want-to-know-it-alls.” They collect questions like souvenirs and chase answers like lovers. Google should be tired of you.
Thee Book Club • How to Be Disgustingly Educated
The most important thing for me is Kierkegaard’s insistence that being a totally ordinary human being is an enormous task and a declaration of faith from above, and that when you are lucky enough to be given this one life on earth as a human being, then you need to live it with complete sincerity and full responsibility.
how to change your life, part 2: agnes callard's aspiration
The problem is that perfectionism is at odds with creativity, because perfection only exists in the hypothetical. An idea can be perfect, so long as you don’t write it down. The act of making something real is the act of making it imperfect.
Elizabeth Gilbert said, “You’re not entitled to the reward for your labor. You’re only entitled to the labor itself.”
Better to exist imperfectly, than to not exist at all.
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Perfectionism has nothing to do with getting it right. It has nothing to do with fixing things. It has nothing to do with standards. Perfectionism is a refusal to let yourself move ahead. It is a loop—an obsessive, debilitating closed system that causes you to get stuck in the details of what you are writing or painting or making and to lose sight
... See morePerfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
Mattering grants everyone dignity, even as it brings with it a certain humility. In the course of a day, we all pivot between contexts in which we matter quite a bit (nursing the baby) and ones in which we hardly matter at all (just another commuter on a crowded subway car). This can produce a sense of whiplash, but we might think of that feeling... See more
The Pain of Perfectionism
Unsure if this is true or not; but lately I haven’t felt the need to perform as well as I used to (at least not as extremely and wholly as I used to -8th grade) and maybe that’s because I’ve found people that I believe I matter to. I matter to my friends, and I have a decent amount of them, even more so who matter to me, which helps reinforce the notion that if i were to stop being perfect, as the essay says, the sky won’t fall since I will, and won’t, matter regardless.