3: youth development
Reginald Dwayne Betts's Trajectory
- Reginald Dwayne Betts took a paralegal course and a writing correspondence course while in prison.
- Despite costing staff time, the prison allowed him to do this before Pell Grants and college programs were available.
- Years after release, initial metrics would have shown unemployment and low wages, making it seem li
People I (Mostly) Admire • Reading Dostoevsky Behind Bars
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Demonization and Blame
- Reginald Dwayne Betts believes the lack of forgiveness in society stems from real fear and demonization on both sides.
- Our investment in assigning blame creates structures that hinder commonality.
- Betts acknowledges his perspective is shaped by having resources and support, which many formerly incarcerated individuals lack.
- The
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Competence and a feeling of well-being or self-esteem are important for both children and parents. We build our self-esteem by recognizing the positive and the negative messages and experiences life has offered us, and by making healthy decisions about those offerings. Nurture and structure help us do this. A balance of loving nurture and consisten
... See moreConnie Dawson • Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children
Children who develop self-efficacy learn to believe they can rely on their abilities when facing a challenge.
Tamara Phd Rosier • Your Brain's Not Broken
Encouragement focuses on effort and improvement,
Vicki Hoefle • Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids
Encouragement teaches kids to rely on themselves
Vicki Hoefle • Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids
Adolescents benefit from structured adversity, whether it’s algebra or chores. They build self-esteem and work ethic. It’s why the social psychologist Jonathan Haidt has argued for the importance of children learning to do hard things, something that technology is making infinitely easier to avoid
This circle of creativity of sorts is a space in which children can take risks and try things out, fall down and stand up again, fail and succeed—because they feel secure and safe in the proximity of a person who loves them unconditionally.
Tal Ben-Shahar • Short Cuts to Happiness: Life-Changing Lessons from My Barber
Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children t... See more