withering away
Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided. In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder
... See moreI find this text so profound in the context of miscarriage. , "a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided"
when you have a miscarriage you yourself are literally a space where something once lived, and your body carves around the special being created by love and that creates the most painful ache.
"the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it." research is now showing that the cells of unborn babies stay with the mother years after their deaths. so truly you're not "moving on" you're not "leaving it behind" you're moving with it. Moving with him, or her. Taking that love with you, to every holiday and birthday, to every city or country.
Truly I "reach for what's no longer there" holding my empty womb in remembrance of my sweet babies.
I think all mothers of unborn babies need to be told " grief is not a burden to be hidden" as we were all raised up to keep pregnancies a secret incase something happened and to 1/4 of us, that something did. Now we are in a war between taking care of ourself and inconveniencing others.
lastly i thank the writer who said "because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together". all along i have been struggling to do this. Struggling to learn how to hold heavy loss and deep love and i didnt know i could hold them In one hand, together, as one. So thank you
As long as there is love, there will be grief. The grief of time passing, of life moving on half-finished, of empty spaces that were once bursting with the laughter and energy of people we loved.
As long as there is love there will be grief because grief is love's natural continuation. It shows up in the aisles of stores we once frequented, in the
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