what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
what even is perfectionism??
Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”
-John Steinbeck
is your perfectionism coming from fear or from love?
love-based perfectionism sounds like:
- "I want to make this better"
- "I can see how beautiful this could be"
- "it'd be even more fun if I could do it this way"
fear-based perfectionism sounds like:
- "I need to make this better"
- "I'm scared to put bad work into the world"
- "I'd finally feel relief... See more
love-based perfectionism sounds like:
- "I want to make this better"
- "I can see how beautiful this could be"
- "it'd be even more fun if I could do it this way"
fear-based perfectionism sounds like:
- "I need to make this better"
- "I'm scared to put bad work into the world"
- "I'd finally feel relief... See more
scott 🌞 • Tweet
perfectionism is a personality trait in which we constantly see the gap between how things are and how they could be (in ourselves, our environment, our relationships, and the world), and feel the compulsive drive to close that gap with our actions. perfectionists can’t just let it be. they are driven to make things better, even at high personal
... See morePerfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
my working definition of perfectionism is that it's the pathological need to be perceived as both special and exceptional, because you learned that love and acceptance are conditional on being perceived that way
Adler (1973) regarded perfectionism as an indispensable part of life, a striving to rise above feelings of dependency and helplessness. Understanding one’s personal power, for Adler, involved maximizing one’s abilities and using them for the good of society. Maslow (1971) equated the full realization of one’s potential with the absence of neurosis.
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