what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
what even is perfectionism??
Most people live their lives in between these 2 emotions-
1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.
2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.
The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.
1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.
2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.
The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
“Boundary lines, of any type, are never found in the real world itself, but only in the imagination of the mapmakers.”
Ken Wilber
That moment when you realize your perfectionism isn't really about excellence - it's about control.
If I can just make this thing perfect enough, I can control how people respond to it, how I feel about myself, what happens next.
But perfectionism actually prevents the very thing it promises: the satisfaction of creating something real and letting... See more
If I can just make this thing perfect enough, I can control how people respond to it, how I feel about myself, what happens next.
But perfectionism actually prevents the very thing it promises: the satisfaction of creating something real and letting... See more
Su • Tweet
Perfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
perfectionism encompasses the ability to look inward, and know without equivocation, that growing towards unmet potential is one of the primary aims of a human life.
“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”
-John Steinbeck