Understanding Self

Generosity will break your heart. It will heal your Love threshold. You will realize that everybody needs your love. You don’t have to love everybody. That’s too hard; don’t start there. Just begin to notice how much everyone needs and wants to be loved. Let it soften and open your heart.

A participant whose concern is her relationship with her employer can recognize, in another participant's discussion of his problems with his mother, the same existential structure that is at the source of her own problem. Thus The Forum leader regularly exhorts participants to "listen from your own concerns."

I don't know what I'm doing. Would you want to dance knowing what you're doing? But in our culture, you're not allowed not to know. It's shameful not to know. It's the way we already always are. There's an opportunity to develop a certain relationship with not knowing in here that will give you a more powerful access to what is worth knowing.