thinkers!
Even when you can’t talk, the expectation is that you voice it. And if you don’t, what does that mean? That you don’t care? That you don’t love them enough? I reject that notion.
The epidemic of constant communication
And yet, is it not enough to simply hold someone in your mind, to let missing them be an internal thing, quiet and private?
The epidemic of constant communication
I make a mental note that it’s important for artists to live in big, bustling cities. This way, they are constantly reminded of what they are up against.
Paloma Mag • 023. CULTURE/VULTURE.
In fact I have abandoned altogether that kind of pointless entry; instead I tell what some would call lies. “That’s simply not true,” the members of my family frequently tell me when they come up against my memory of a shared event. “The party was not for you, the spider was not a black widow, it wasn’t that way at all.” Very likely they are right,
... See moreKeepers of private notebooks are a different breed altogether, lonely and resistant rearrangers of things, anxious malcontents, children afflicted apparently at birth with some presentiment of loss.
Somewhere along the way, we decided that the only acceptable form of communication is a main-stage monologue.
In Defense of Thinking Small
There’s a phrase making the rounds online: “The more I heal, the less ambitious I become.” I’ve been wondering if its resonance reveals a quiet fatigue with the constant push for more and a longing for lives that are simpler, quieter, and more self-directed. Not smaller in value, but in volume. To me, that’s not regression. That’s freedom.